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"Comparison is the thief of joy." - Theodore Roosevelt
Yesterday, I had an OFF DAY. PERIOD. I woke up feeling off, my morning practice felt off, and I walked into the day feeling ungrounded, distracted, tender-hearted, and irritable. Can you relate?
I knew that I was feeling this way, and (at first) rather than slowing down, getting gentle with myself, and asking what was up, I pushed through. I got busy. I started rapid-fire tasking! "I need to do this, then this, then this..." my breath got more shallow, my pace quicker, my conversations short and fiery. By the time I got to Sunday brunch with my husband- something I had been looking forward to, I felt sick to my stomach, had completely shut down, and was in tears.
I had a good cry- as my coach would say "let it up and out!" and then, feeling exhausted, I rested. It as if I had to tire out my mind with the many thoughts of life and the "figuring it out" so that my body/mind could be still for awhile. And I was- for a few hours! I had jolts of "I need to get up and do X" but mostly, I SAVORED the REST.
After I had had some time to get out of my head, drop into what my body was feeling, and to honor that, understanding came (as it often seems to). In the midst of change: in the span of two weeks I moved to a new home, in a new state, started a new master mind group, and shifted the focus of my business- I had been looking to OTHERS, OUTSIDE of myself, for the "right way". I was looking to others for the right way to live here, the right way to start and run my business, and the right way to feel in this experience. And guess what- there are ENDLESS OPINIONS on that! EVERYONE has a different opinion, likely because we all experience life a bit differently. So when we hand our POWER of CHOICE over to "other" it gets chaotic, and in my experience, you never really feel settled or grounded into any one decision.
When I took a literal adult TIME OUT (no work, no tasking, no phone, no people), I was able to create the space to realize I was in this mode of operation, and that while I TRULY VALUE mentorship (people who know me well know I am student for life!), I ultimately need to make the choice/take the action that feels true for me in that moment. I also need to be ok with the fact that some will be opposed to that and that I may change my mind down the road. If we can truly LISTEN IN, DROP the agenda of the ego mind, and HONOR what our higher selves/intuition is asking for, the "right" answers will be there. It may not be what our sister/mom/coach/husband/tv personality would have us do, but it's the action we need to take. THAT action liberates. THAT action keeps us in our TRUE NATURE: peace, space, clarity, joy, and LOVE.
Don't let comparison ROB YOU of that.
With so much reverence for this Path of Awareness, I send this from my heart to yours.