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"I am 100% responsible for my experience of life; every time I say "YES" when my truth is "NO" I am giving my power away."
Oooh! That's a powerful statement; how does it sit with you? Say it out loud: "I am 100% responsible for my experience of life." Part of me says "Yes, I know that." Another, more hidden part of myself says "But really? Do I have to be 100% responsible? All the time? That's hard!" And it IS hard!
But the truth is we ARE 100% responsible for our experience; it's the ONLY one we can understand completely and CHOOSE to change based on that knowing. Facing that can be hard, and scary, and sometimes (though it's hard to admit!) we put the blame of our experience on some-one/thing else, because we don't want to deal with it right now (or ever!).
So let's practice together right now: think of a person or situation that you tend to put the blame on (a.k.a., your "story"; I'm quiet because I was bullied; I'm tough because I was emotionally neglected; My mom/dad taught me to always be ____.). Think of how you feel when you tell yourself/someone else this story; does it feel good/liberating/empowering? Chances are NO (though it may provide temporary RELIEF)! There's usually a residual heaviness, a stickiness, and even though you want to shake yourself of it, situations keep presenting themselves that bring you back to your story; WHY!?
In my experience there are a couple of reasons:
1. There is an opportunity to learn a lesson (that we are not learning by putting the blame on some-one/thing else).
2. At the other side of 'owning up' and taking responsibility for our thoughts/feelings/actions there is a taking BACK of our power!
As you reflect (write it down!) on the experience that caught your mind's attention as you were reading this, ask yourself: Where am I giving my power away by allowing some-one/thing else to take the blame for my experience? How is this story serving me (even though it may be causing more harm than good, there is usually a reason we keep defaulting to it; for example, so we don't have to face a TRUTH that we may not like/may not fit with our own self-identity)? How do I feel after the dust has settled? What are my triggers (i.e. when/where/with whom do you default to your story)? How can I CHOOSE to CHANGE to take my POWER back?
Remember the EmPowering Affirmation: I am 100% responsible for my experience; I choose to take my power back now.
I am in it with you!
Peace, Blessings, & Deep Breaths,
Sat Nam (Sanskrit: Truth is my/our Identity)
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